As we did a little Korean cooking this weekend in our wok, the need to clean the wok for that meal and for sins in previous cleaning was scheduled with our Chinese student on Sunday afternoon. She has such a great heart to take the lead in this task, so even though I had done yard work already, I was glad to find out proper wok maintenance from an expert.
As we used a green scratchy pad and a little “soft” soap to clean the wok, we did quite a bit of talking. She told about her experiences with the exchange student process. And, she informed me she was not very interested in attending the orientation weekend with the other exchange students this weekend – her mother would not sign the paperwork to grant her permission. I am sure I volunteered some other info on our family as well. As the wok got shinier, our conversation got deeper.
“Is your son a Christian?”, she asked. (This question surprised me a bit. Culturally, she is not any religion. She has been willing to participate in the parts of our life that actively make us Christians. We hope all areas of our life reflect our faith, but she has actively participated in church and attending Christian school with my daughters.)
I replied, “He has chosen not to be right now.” (Of course, this is a disappointment to us, but we are working on understanding why this is so. We are trusting God to bring him back in His time.)
“That is odd. I thought he would be a Christian if his parents were Christians.”, she stated.
I replied (I don’t remember exactly, but it went something like this), “He went to a Christian school for 13 years. And, once he graduated, he decided it was not important to him right now. He still has a good heart, but he does not see the importance of many of the things his mother and I believe. He knows Jesus died for his sins (I tried to make sure she had some knowledge of this. I did not want to over explain. I wanted to answer her question w/ the hope I would give her enough to think it over further. She is almost certain to think something over before she speaks.), but he is not interested in that right now. We hope he chooses to make the decision to follow Jesus again. It is his decision to make to follow Jesus – his mother and I can’t make it for him.” (Due to any language and or “Christian-lingo” words, I may have had to state or restate the above in a slightly different way.)
There was additional back and forth to clarify a couple of details – I didn’t take the reigns of the conversation. She asked, and I answered. Based on knowing her 2.5 weeks, she is a thinker. She will have more questions, and when she does, I hope and pray I am able to provide information to allow her to continue to be curious and ask questions.