At the local mall, there is a Chick Fil-A. While all jobs have their down sides, an upside at this job is both of my sons could work together. As a parent, this kept us from having to add another car to quickly to our entourage of vehicles. And, it gave the boys time together. It was interesting to hear their stories of the “name of the day” (We would need to guess what name came up the most times as the name to call when the order was ready on that day.) or we would listen to the whiny customer of the day story. (The one I remember most distinctly is the person who wanted them to double cook chicken – not a normal menu item. And, when the chicken was not overcooked to his satisfaction after they tried twice, he returned it and wanted a full refund.) Occasionally, there would be the story of a regular customer who thought my boys were nearly as special as I do.
Enter the cougar….
While their relationship started with her being a little snarky with my son when he was working the register at Chick Fil-A, they now have had a post Chick Fil-A relationship for nearly a year. Please understand, this is not the normal “cougar” relationship. She exceeds his age by probably 40 years. And, although she is married, she seems to like to be social with my little cub. She makes him tea and offers him a few snacks as they meet and discuss his recent accomplishments and/or activities.
The relationship has included a few phone calls while he is at school. When he is home for breaks, he tries to fit a visit in. The past visit involved him taking his camera to show off the pictures from our recent trip. Although some details are sketchy, it seems she is very complimentary of his ambition and the direction he is taking with his life. I have warned him to not be surprised if she attempts to introduce him to any of her daughters or granddaughters. (This would remove the cougar title and have it replaced with “matchmaker”. Since it is a family joke, the “cougar” title is likely to stick regardless of the pseudo-grandmother/grandson relationship.)
As with our recent trip, Jeff does very well talking to adults of all levels. He has told me she is Catholic. If his relationship with his “cougar” friend gives him an opportunity to show what his relationship is with our Heavenly Father, that is a good thing. If his older friend sees how my son’s relationship with God is different than her own, then it is a better thing. And, if at the end of the relationship, my son has practice talking to future mother-in-laws OR grandmother in-laws, then it certainly will not be time wasted….I think every son-in-law has room for improvement in this area.